Hug Therapy.

We cry. We smile. We laugh. We're heart broken. We're moody. And then, every time, I wonder that how much a single hug can make a person feel so good, supported, so fine.

Hug. It's more than just a three-letter word. It's about the assurance of being there rather than a hundred of broken promises, shattered dreams, fake commitments and aimless statements. It's not about the physical contact, but the trust and the sense of safety, ignoring that feeling of isolation, anger and hurt. Hugging therapy, is a really powerful way of healing. 

Well. let's not think the way our 'Orthodox' society thinks. Our society and people might think too wrong about it. You see a guy hugging a girl, and immediately, without even a single explanation, we detect the non-existent love between the two. Because, we human beings, are so so so amazing!

Even if you see an enemy of yours upset, broken, or on the verge of giving up (worst case scenario) just, hug him/her. It might make him/her smile or cry. Cry, in most cases, but trust me, it will help. Because at times, it's about the actions and not the words.

Moreover, you end up learning how to give, and how to receive.

Forgive and Forget.

Ever felt so alone in a room, full of 50 people? Oh yes, even i did. And trust me, it sucks. Similarly, sometimes, we wish to be alone in a crowd and we wish to be with someone when alone. How weird can teenagers be? Super weird. Super super super weird. Which is exactly two more super's than the usual.

"Forgive and Forget", one of the most common mantra used by today's teenagers to get over heartbreak. But no wonder how untrue and wrong it is. Probably for the most people, forgiving but never forgetting is the maximum they can afford to do. And probably for the remaining, forgetting is what they do, because the pain is too much and they fail to be so forgiving and good. On one hand, people tell you to learn from your experiences and to never repeat those stupid mistakes again, but on the other hand, those very same people tell you to forget about your past and  learn to hope and faith again. How uncanny is that!

Suppose you just went through a terrible heartbreak, and with time, you do manage to smile,but then the other day, you meet this amazing person, you like him/her, he/she likes you back, but you guys just can't date. There's something within you that doesn't let you take a chance, again. Is it the fear of getting your heart broken again? Or is it that you've learnt so much from your past experience of being a bit more careful?

What are we supposed to do? I wish i knew too.

Life's so unfair.

"Because out of nowhere, suddenly some weird person reminded me of how i was when writing was the best thing for me ever. Those days when i used to pour down everything, my every emotion, frustration, sadness, anger, guilt, or even happiness. How it all used to make me happy. Somewhere, i was reminded of how much have i changed, from being someone so crazy about writing to a complete different person who's just thinking and thinking and thinking, and not letting it out. What happened to me? Where did the smile go? It's like shouting at the top of my voice and no one seems to hear me. It's like drowning in the middle of the sea, where there is so much of life around, but no life within me. How could i be so stupid to let someone do this to me, to influence my mind, my heart so badly? Maybe i just turned out to be too good for the rest of the people, who don't even deserve it. I value happiness. I value my friends, family. I value all the things that i have in my life. But suddenly nobody seems to value me, nothing seems to bother anybody.I don't know if i'm making sense, but life is weird, too weird to be true."

Devastation, being hurt, being broken, frustration, anger, there are so many negative emotions that we go through everyday. But it's somehow really stupid, how we expect out lives to be perfect, isn't it? It can never actually be perfect. We just have to make it perfect. We need to give ourselves our own made happy ending. Because nobody will do that for you. Because that is how life works. :)

Time Heals Everything.

Teenage dreams, fantasies, a fairytale romance, a future together. Everyone's secret desire. Nope, mine was very different. Some of us are lucky, some aren't. What is worse still, is to have a relationship and wake up one day to see the ruins of it. All is mercilessly snatched away. Everything is lost. You are blank.

But as they say, "Time Heals Everything". Eventually, you summon the strength to get up and fight for it.
And if not that, at least wait for it. Hoping that it will come to you and you would then embrace it with open arms.

Being Optimistic.

We all make mistakes. Some get through them easily and others just get stuck. But what when you cannot decide who actually was at fault? Was it her? Was it him? She still have no answers.

She always knew. they never had a fairytale romance. It was just a rocky ride down a steep slope. But whatever it is, she dedicated a large chunk of her heart to it.
And now, when it is all gone. All she can do is, hold onto those rare memories, the moments which are worth a lifetime. Although it may seem to him that she hardly cares, but the bitter truth is that, it kills her inside. Nothing has changed for her.

He thinks she never tried to make it worth, she did. Alot. She stood up, picked up and gathered all the broken pieces and tried to fix them up.

But today, after waiting for so long, she realised, that it is not even worth it. Because, at the end, Life Goes On....

Baptism of the Blog

Before my blog finally goes on air, i guess there will be a few questions that need answering over here. Why the blog title? A lot of careful forethought, planning, microlevel dissection and brainstorming sessions had been spent in coming up with this blog title. If you don't believe it, then you have got it right! It was purely a product of my imaptience and inability to think creatively. Having tried so many options like "the great beyond", "walk of life", "stairway to heaven" and yes, something called "the unknown author", i was feeling totally down and out. At this point of time, as it is quite often, my creative juices started to flow and i came up with this beautiful (yes it is!) title of  "isolated dreams", only to be rudely denied with the message, "Sorry! already in use". But i was hell bent on getting this title work for me. So once again, i thought a lot and came up with this "Flights of fantasy".